The Pursuit of… Sanity?

Well, I found something fun to do that wasn’t too hard to manage with a little person.  Mike and I watched The Last Man on Earth, The Omega Man and I Am Legend (all movies are based on a single story, called I Am Legend).  I figured out I wanted to do this after reading this article on the AV Club.  To be fair, Tasha doesn’t actually recommend doing this, but her article made it sound irresistible to me.   It works well for us because, well, they are monster movies and two of them are bad, so although  Mike had seen The Omega Man and I Am Legend before, he was game to watch them again with me.

I’ve been trying to get my head around the fact that I need to do more fun stuff, and of course having a child means that you have to actually plan things like this out, in advance.  I don’t do well at planning in advance.  I majored in spontaneity, apparently.  I subscribe to Groupon, and I’m finding that it is forcing me to get a babysitter and go out just the two of us.  We’ve been a little bit spoiled in the going-out-to-dinner department, because Liam is very easygoing and doesn’t mind going to dinner with us.  But, between his inability to eat dairy (and our suspicions about soy), there are a lot of restaurants that we just can’t take him because there would be nothing he could eat.  I bought a coupon to a local Italian restaurant recently, which is forcing me to get the babysitter, because the coupon is only good for, like, three months and I could totally go that long and longer without thinking I needed to do anything so extravagant as get someone to take Liam for a couple of hours while we do something fun.

I’m not sure if I posted about this before, but Large Corporation is considering closing down Mike’s plant, so he has the threat of losing his job hanging over him at exactly the same time that he’s mourning the death of his father.  So, all this stress has got me thinking about making sure we do fun stuff anyway.  It requires creativity (though I probably don’t have to tell you that).  So, we met Daddy for lunch one day this week, and I got a friend to look after the little guy so we can have a few hours alone in the house this weekend.  And next weekend, we’re going to eat at The Red Pepper.  I’m really excited about it.  And if all that sounds like a lot of money, I bought the Groupon for the restaurant last month, so it spreads the cost of dinner out, and then there’s the fact that you can’t put a price on your sanity.

That, and I’ve discovered a dirty secret.  I had always believed that convenience food was really expensive and that our occasional indulgence in it was driving up our food costs.  Then I got burned out on cooking, so we’re eating nothing but convenience, and it seems like it may actually be cheaper than making your food from scratch.  It’s at least not busting our budget.  I hate to admit I’m getting by this way, but I got to the point where I was burned out on all the house-wifery and just took a few weeks (read the whole month) off.  The house is a mess, but we’re getting by.  I’m pretty sure the world hasn’t ended because of it.  I guess you could say I have finally discovered the value of taking care of us.  It’s a good thing.  I’m trying to talk to Liam about what we’re doing differently and why.  I don’t know if he’s old enough to understand yet, but he will be eventually.  Home-cooked meals are good, but they’re not so good they make up for two burned-out, resentful parents.

A final note: I am not going to just decide to live in filth and reheat dinner for the rest of our lives.  This is just for the season we’re in right now.  It’s less than ideal, but it is OK for us on a temporary basis.  When Mike feels better, he’ll do more.  I’m feeling much better already and I’m starting to dig us out of the mess.   The Bible tell us (I read it recently, but am too lazy to look up the chapter and verse) to forbear with one another, and once you make the decision to forbear with your spouse and your children (and parents), the decision to forbear with yourself is not far behind it.

Oh, and one more thing.  I mentioned watching the I Am Legend movies as a fun thing to do, but if you are looking for three actual good movies to watch on a single story, I highly recommend Yojimbo, A Fistful of Dollars and Last Man Standing.


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